What is your style of education?
In our respective roles as counselors of children and parents in private practice, we have found that parenting style contributes greatly to the well-being, resilience, and overall behavior of your children. A parenting style that gives love and support along with discipline and structure has proven to be a reliable indicator of educating happy and safe children. In addition, we found that parents ’access to discipline, warmth and care, communication, children’s level of mastery, and parental expectations of maturity level are factors that contribute to a child’s behavior and performance.
In a series of studies conducted in the 1960s, clinical and developmental psychologist Diana Baumrind identified the four basic components of parental behavior of response, nonresponse, demand, and indulgence, which she combined to create three main parental styles. McCobe and Martin then define a fourth parenting style, which is characterized by neglect or lack of involvement in parenting. In our private practice, we often see parents use these four basic parenting styles. We ask you to ask yourself, “What parenting style are you in?”
An authoritative parent obeys many rules and expects the child to obey them unequivocally. Misconduct is not tolerated and punishment is often used to enforce rules and control the child’s behavior. An authoritative parent has high expectations and requires the child to meet high standards. An authoritative parent displays low-heat and high-control parental behavioral components. A child who is educated by an authoritarian parent may seem to behave very well, however this may not be the case, as studies have found that children raised by authoritative parents may be less inclined to confess their disobedience and misconduct to personal authority. Our children’s counselor has repeatedly stated that children educated by authoritative parents find it more difficult to feel socially accepted by their peers, have fewer resources, have less high self-confidence and less self-confidence. Thus, it can be assumed that although a child may appear to be well-behaved on the surface, he may be disturbed on a deeper emotional level.
The compliant parent makes very few demands on the child, imposes few rules, and allows the child to regulate his or her own activities. Following externally defined standards of conduct is not mandatory and expectations are low for a child who is educated by a compliant parent. The compliant parenting style is not punitive and is very acceptable; The child is often treated as an equal. Nutrient and warming components combined with reduced control form parental behavior.
A trusting parent has clear expectations about behavior and behavior. The child’s activities are done in a logical and rational way, which enables acceptable verbal exchanges and discussions. When necessary, the trusting father exercises strict control, but this is accomplished through healthy communication, not strictly and disciplined. The father encourages the independence of the child and is aware of his own interests. The authoritative parenting style is logical, positive, and combines elements of parental behavior to control warmth and response.
careless / not involved.
A negligent or uninvolved parent fulfills the child’s physical demands but is otherwise indifferent, distant, and emotionally distant. The indifferent and negligent parent very few demands on the child show very little warmth and responsiveness. A child raised by a negligent parent usually performs worse than children raised by parents who have the other three parental styles. Children raised by these kinds of parents generally feel ill in almost every aspect of life; Interestingly, most minors in conflict with the law were educated by careless or uninvolved parents. In addition, a child educated by a negligent parent is likely to have cognitive and social and emotional deficits, and may find it difficult to form healthy bonds later in life.